Azhira...it sound a little like your xh is having his cake and eating it too.
Not that I doubt his intentions with your S, but how much of that is an excuse to see YOU that often.

If you don't detatch a bit, how is he ever going to know what he's missing?

Listen to me acting like I know what I'm talking about!
J~

M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out