w8ing- I feel so bad for your daughters...the holidays will be hard for them as well. I wish that the MLCers could see what they to do to the children and the position that they put them in.
Why would anyone give you a 2x4 for calling your H about your D's...you have to look out for their best interest...no question about that. Sounds like your H was receptive to your suggestions so it's all good.
This is bound to be a rough week...hold on and you will make it through. You are strong and you have weathered the worst of this. I wish I had some deeply profound words to give you to help make things better...I'll keep trying to come up with something. Hang in there.