I agree with the above 'rewords'. It sounds quite defensive...however I believe you already sent this right?

I agree with waiting to send a response...don't know if I'd wait 2 days...but give yourself some time to think about it.

Overall I think the dialogue is really good and I think she is saying a LOT! I think she is speaking about things that are the basis for working on your R...if she chooses...and if you choose based on what she's bringing to the table. I don't know at what point this would be appropriate to bring up...but if she is interested in working on the things that she's bringing up, perhaps counselling together would be a good idea.

I wouldn't see this bad at all, I wish my H would say these things. I'm dying to figure out where we went wrong so we can work toward resolution. But unfortunately we're nowhere close to that.

B...I know you're emotionally drained, hang in there...it's going to be a long journey!
J~


M 35
H 29
M 4 yrs T 9 yrs
D 3
S born 10/19/07
Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day
OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08
Status - still figuring this out