I really hate that he gave me these papers this week...I was doing so well. Does he ever think about his timing? Don't answer that...I already know....
Rough night. I was taking D11 to her thing and D13 asks about Thanksgiving. I tell her that Wednesday night she is going to her dad's and then to her grandparents on Thursday for dinner. She is not happy. Tells me that it is boring at dad's and there is nothing to do.
Get out the 2x4's - I probably messed up. I called H after the two left the car. I told him I was uncomfortable calling him but wanted him to know how they felt about going there. I told him that they look forward to seeing him, but they don't have anything to do while there.
He agreed with me and said that he is bored there too. At first he was a little defensive, but I started giving him some suggestions as to what they could do to keep from getting bored. He thanked me for the ideas and it was a pleasant chat.
Then we take D11 to her next thing and I tell them that we all need to think of some things that they could buy or do at H's place. D13 has a meltdown.
We drop D11 off and D13 is sobbing. She is just very upset that dad isn't around anymore. I asked her if she wanted me to call H and see if we can work out additional time. She said no because she doesn't want to spend any less time with me.
She then was very upset about Christmas and Thanksgiving and me. Unfortunately, I shed a few tears because of some of the things that she was saying to me (she was being very loving and kind). I do think that she knows that H left and I didn't ask him to. She said to me that she knew that this wasn't my fault and that she knew that there was nothing I could do to fix things. I didn't ask a lot of questions, like how she knew this, because she was so upset. I got her calmed down and she is back to normal. I did ask her if she ever shares her feelings with her dad and she said no, she couldn't do that. I told her that dad loved her very much and she could talk to him. But I know she won't.
