I am amazed at what I have read at your patience and depth of caring.
As for your H and your D, tell him to man up and father up and talk with her instead of through you. Sorry but he is taking the coward way out there.
You have been doing this for 3 years...you know the holidays suck. It is supposed to be a time of family and that reminder drives us deeper into the questions of "what exactly are we doing?"
You also know the tricks to get your mind off of it. Have you been here to long to forget the basics of GALing? I got a reminder from an earlier post today to examine myself and possible 180's, changes for the good inside of me, something I plan on re-evaluting tonight.
I am sorry NJ, I hope that it gets a little easier for you.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
