I am struggling today because my 12 year old wants to spend Thanksgiving with his Dad and his girflriend at her families a few hours away. They leave tomorrow and come back Friday. He asked me if he could and I couldn't say no but it hurts.
XH called me later and told me that he wasn't trying to start anything and he didn't bring it up at all but s12 asked him what he was doing and if he could go. He wasn't going to be mean and tell him know. He said he told him that the holidays are important to me but s12 still wants to go.
XH told me he would tell s12 he couldn't go if I wanted him too. But that isn't fair either. Either way s12 will be upset with one of us. It is only Thanksgiving and not Christmas. I need to just get over it. I Have cried alot today about it though.
Divorce sucks!
At least s8 wants to stay home. I am having all of my family here for dinner. I will be surrounded by people who love me and whom I love but I hate that s12 won't be here.
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
sorry you are having a rough day. I think you made the right choice in letting him go. Try to enjoy Thanksgiving. Sounds like you will be busy cooking for the family! I am sure S12 will be calling you lots and he will miss you tons
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
Thanks Kym! It is hard not to let him see how much it upsets me. He is still a little boy. He doesn't need to worry about that. Plus he had sinus surgery last week. He is such a tough kid and I love him!
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
Yes - divorce sucks!!! Pitty craxy Xs never realized this. XW keeps trying to dump the kids on me because she has other plans etc.... Whatever!!! I take them when I can as long as I don't already have plans. Better they stay with me than with whoever she wants to dump them on.
Sorry you had to deal with this. I hope you are feeling better and have a Happy Thanksgiving.
Whatever you do, don't think that your S is choosing his Dad over you. He misses his Dad and he wants to spend time with him. That is okay.
If your S was living with his Dad, he would be wanting to spend time with you. I would rather have my kids with me most of the time than only a couple of days. Besides, you will have him for Christmas right? Your H will feel the loss then.
I'm sorry you're feeling down and I hope you will feel much better and wish you a happy Thanksgiving.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
Thanks! Thanksgiving was good. There were lots of family at my house and it was fun. S12 had fun with his Dad and I think it was good for him to spend the time with him like that. And yes he will be with me for Christmas so that is good.
Christy M: 31 H: 33 Married ~ 13 years S12 S8 Bomb 10/05 supposedly ended A 2nd bomb 12/30/05 Separated 01/06 I filed 6/12/07 ~ new ow 3wks after moving out http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1094955&page=0#Post1094955
Glad Thanksgiving was enjoyable. Good to hear you will have the kids for Christmas too. Hope you are doing well and making a dent in that Christmas Shopping!
