Both my H and I are conflict avoidant. We'll do almost anything to avoid a fight. I found the book "Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most" very helpful. I also like Tammy Lenski's website (you can just google "Tammy Lenski" to find it). Perhaps one of these will be helpful in your goal to be more assertive.

- Treading

Me 41
H 42
M 11 years
no children
Bomb: 10/2006 "I'm better without you than with you."
Separated: 12/2006
H moved back: 6/2007