Hi w8ing- I am sorry you are scared. The thought of telling your H anything is probably making you feel vulnerable...I don't blame you. You don't have to tell your H you love him and it probably isn't what you should do anyway...Besides, do any of us really love our alien spouse? I don't. Can you just tell him something like you understand he needs time and space to figure things out, but you still believe in your marriage and that you don't want the D.
Don't stress about this...take your time and think it through...
If you want to bounce ideas around, we will try to help you sort this out.
