I see that...I have a new name for you...Dreamboat Annie. You fit all descriptions. I am a Southern Belle and debutante as well. Damn, what do we do now. LOL.
You are too sweet. And, you give ME too much credit.
I agree that this was a good place to start for a healing or exit of sorts. I thought it was that until today.
Instead, I don't see a shred of truth in what he is telling the church. His new GOD.
I do see some sort of thought process - "my life crashed, how do I get it back up. I need something."
But, that same thought process was in tact 1 year ago when he was seeking Native medicine healers for his "hallucinations." Again, he even verbalized a need to "get better" and get out of the horrible state he was in.
Then he swings to berating anyone who thinks so (they are out to "get him")....
And the cycle continues.
So, you're right. The church is a good place to start. IF you had the process right. Right now, with all the lies, being a victim and hero, all I see is a person seeking a place to be "good" again. Developing another "compartment" for his life. And, what was said about his intensity in classes and being "gung-ho" and doing well, fits into his intense drives for whatever he does now....healing or destructive.
At least he does have a support system. And, one that is NOT tied to me. Before, when other Docs here have intervened by asking him to see a psychiatrist, he has blown up, thinking they were on "my side."
We shall see. I thought at least this might be a good network for him, until I found he was lying. For me, the definition of a really solid support network are a group of people who you can confide the truth in, who KNOW you. But, since these are facades, once they come crashing down, where does everyone go. Out of his life, like all the groupies in his other facades.
No disrespect intended toward my mormon friends. In fact, one of my best friends is a member in good standing with the LDS. However, I read a comment earlier from Always that her husband had a God-complex. If that assessment is correct there may be more of a reason why H decided the mormon faith is for him. The LDS beliefs are that God used to be a man and ascended to be God and with his goddess wife populated the earth. LDS men who are able to follow all of the precepts and be worthy, will ascend to godhood and with his godess wife (wives for the polygamist) and populate their world with their "offspring".
I don't want to get into any theological discussion here. I am simply curious as to if this is what attracts Always' H to the LDS faith? Could it be his God complex she mentioned earlier?
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
I do know that one person commented that the ability of members to move up the church leadership ranks would be very appealing to H. A position of power in a standing faith, to a whole community.
He is very needy to be admired, worshiped, told that he is great, the best XXX and the hardest working. In fact, hearing the words of one of his church members made me cringe b/c it was straight from H's mouth to them as a descriptor of himself.
He takes no blame. He has a lot of paranoia....everyone is "out to get him" or "sabatoge" him. He is never appreciated enough.
He is literally a black hole of need. No sense of perception or filters. A constant monologue of the weirdest things.
