I was so confused. My h kept saying it wasn't me, it was him! I struggled with this for a long time!
Mine has always said this.
Of course he also said that he had no complaints about our M and he swore he would never leave me.
Now he's turned into a monster. Well, you all know, you have your own. Blech.
Isn't it strange how many of us have the same story basically.
My H used to counsel couples and now he denies what he said to THEM. He has said over and over that this isn't about me, but then all his problems with our sitch evolve around EVERYTHING ABOUT ME. I, according to him, have a fairy-tale version of our M. He lost interest in me years ago. I can't talk to him about his version of reality. In his addled brain he really believes this is the truth.
Angelica, everyone else sees me differently than my H does. To him I am a burden. He can't see what he has because he doesn't want to and neither does yours.
I don't think there is anything we can do except keep becoming the best we can be while they are out to lunch.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
