I believe that he did not appreciate the fact that monkey-girl was more turned on by the fact that he was once a member of one of the West Side story gangs then by his more gentle pursuits. He was experienced enough to throw it out there but not empathetic enough to respect me when it worked. That is why I am trying to be empathetic about the fact that men get turned on by T&A and bunny stuff, I'm not saying that any of it is a reason to choose a life partner but it is what "works" sexually and it is lame on many levels to think/act otherwise.
i think you misunderstood him. he was possibly trying to "share". he didnt want it to turn you on. but you got turned on by a part of him, that he wasnt proud of, and you wanted more of that.
Seems like you have a bad boy fetish, i guess. Seems like you are letting what excites you sexually, rule your relationships.
It also seems like you are not in tune with another point of human sexuality: What turns people on, can change over time. Either unconciously, or as part of a planned effort.
It's just like taste in food. Some things are an "aquired taste". If peoples tastes never chagned, then things with an "aquired taste", that are initially not enjoyable, would never be eaten.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
