BND - good question. It was a chance conversation with a man in his church. I was very careful to not say anything (actually, I said something NICE about H), and make sure he had the right person. Then, a friend of mine fished another member of his church....again, innocent questions. No bad things said about H. Even when faced with awful lies about me. What's the point when he's this messed up.
W2S - you are TOO sweet to give such benefit of doubt. Personally, my H is not really in classic MLC...more classic mental illness...so meds are about the only thing that can help now. Combined with church, God, community...but meds first. The paranoia, anger, victim complex, God complex and delusions (lies) are a little subdued but still there.
