W2S, if it hadn't been for all of this, how would you have met such wonderful peeps as we???
Hot diggity, that was almost poetic. I could make it haiku.
But I won't.
Always, babe, as we learn in life, slander only stings when it holds truth. Since we reckon you weren't schtupping the local pro team, we'll just continue on our merry ways. Those who need to know, do know. Those who don't? Pffffffft!
BND - good question. It was a chance conversation with a man in his church. I was very careful to not say anything (actually, I said something NICE about H), and make sure he had the right person. Then, a friend of mine fished another member of his church....again, innocent questions. No bad things said about H. Even when faced with awful lies about me. What's the point when he's this messed up.
W2S - you are TOO sweet to give such benefit of doubt. Personally, my H is not really in classic MLC...more classic mental illness...so meds are about the only thing that can help now. Combined with church, God, community...but meds first. The paranoia, anger, victim complex, God complex and delusions (lies) are a little subdued but still there.
I was just trying to catch up with your threads and saw the one titled A Favor and I read what you said. It was beautiful and I for one can completely see where it was such. As one who has had the experience of living through all the awful stuff with my MLCer (as Liss put it--one of the top 5 loonies here) reading your thread reminded me of the peace I had last summer for the few weeks he was gone.
I can't really come up with a line for your H. He is just as crazy as a loon, but we all know that.
You, on the other hand, are an amazing woman and deserve happiness and peace.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
I don't know Sun, I am starting to wonder how innocent seeming Always fooled us all this time, having cheated and all, knowing her H was a closet Mormon just waiting to bloom and all ...
... good grief Always ... what next? No, seriously, this is too good to just let it go. What is next? Will there be press releases and pictures. That's it ... pictures. We want local press, URLs, and photos. We demand proof. Show us the bike woman!!!!
Always - Have you thought about contacting the bishop (isn't that what they are in the LDS church?) and saying:
"Look, I'm concerned about my X. I understand that he is joining your church, and that as part of the process he has told lies about me and our R. My concern is not over the lies, but the mental illness that I believe underlies his statements. Please, I would appreciate it if you could be aware that he is not well and watch out for his well-being."
I was not being totally kind toward him. We should, right? He really is not in a good place. He sounds like he is searching for help, and maybe not in all the wrong places. Maybe this will be a baby step for him. But when it does not solve all his problems, I hope he will not feel betrayed by his new faith and abandon it too soon.
I hope he will continue to look for new doors to open for himself, for his own good, instead of blaming others for his misteps. Anything less is not taking him forward. You are so kind to have concerns for him, although you can not help him.
As his new church family interacts with him more, they will form their own images and conlcude for themselves who he is now, in this new life. If he gives them cause for concern, I hope they will embrace him in a support system and guide him to help.
If they are a good church family, and wise, they have seem similar things before and will know better than to look so easily on you in a bad light or believe every rumor.
Of course, I really liked the rumors that were starting here, and BBA's description among others. This could have ended a lot worse.
