And, again - DISCLAIMER. No offense to the Mormon faith (actually, they should be offended he is joining).
The shocker, and 180 is this:
The man my H became 2 years ago was a TOTAL 180 from the man I knew. In every way. His values, ideals, beliefs, everything.
But, THIS option is ALSO a 180 from the man I knew. In every way. His politics, ideals, beliefs, everything. Just completely different.
It is like being the complete opposite of who you are, and the very thing you disagreed with on many ways. But, then again, that was also his identity during the last 2 years too.
So, it's as if the man I *thought* I knew is something in the middle. He went ALL the way to the left. Now he is ALL the way to the right.
While I know it IS common for folks to seek spiritual guidance after hitting bottom and going through an insane time - usually it comes with reflection, honestly, self-awareness, atonement of some sort, or just coming to terms with life. A brutally painful period we have heard many others here experience. I also feel that they start to integrate their many lives.
Sadly, I found that is NOT the case for my H. I thought it might be.
He is lying to his entire congregation (people who all live in the area/community and are my neighbors - he has no perception or awareness that they may find out). They think he is a wonderfully hard-working man. He has convinced them that life is out to get him, screwed over at work. Then, they all think that he is getting screwed in a D.....this is the kicker...."his W was unfaithful and unsupportive. He found her in bed with another man."
Pretty much says it all.
Funny, it doesn't seem like his church knows this side of him, and the entire workplace doesn't really know his church life. Again, living many lives.
What I thought was a spiritual healing after a coming to terms with life from the bottom, was quickly revealed to be just another audience safely away from his network here where he can spew, lie and spew some more. He is the good man once again - at the price of lying to GOD.
But, he's apparently doing great in his classes, is well-liked, and is being baptized in December with his entire family present.
Ok, because we are open minded here ... let's pretend he has truly been through a period of dillusion ... prior to enlightenment. During that time he did imagine you cheating on him. He believed his dream. It was from his incredible guilt and absolute stupidity.
That stupidity continues today in his exit from the tunnel. It causes him a great need to convince everyone he was innocent and victimized. He will pedal his bike to the ends of the earth to do so. He will knock on doors and explain his assention from the abyss thanks to his new faith.
Perhaps that will work for others also, maybe even us. But if I go buy a bike and pedal myself around in this way, will it undo all things I want to forget ... like the D ... my crashing retirement accounts ... that chili I ate last night?
