Get Me On A Smoother Ride....Need Advice #7

[Rob1231]

Hi Sue, I'm not gonna respond to your comments about talks with H - I feel like we've beat that topic pretty much to death for today. A couple of things I do want to say though:

Your H is (still!) all over the map with his emotions and actions. Not to get your hopes up, but he sounds a little like my W did when her A was unraveling. Distressed, distracted, not sleeping well, cranky. Her "big plans" were crumbling out from under her, and she was not a happy camper. Whether that's what is going on with him or not - my message for you is IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU. On the uphills or the downhills of the emotional roller coaster, just remember, he is wrestling with his own MLC demons here. Let him "own" these problems. Do your best to be patient and focus on yourself for the meantime.

Second, don't be so hard on yourself! You have been through a lot, and on top of it, you are still sick. Hang in there and believe in how much better and happier you are going to be, very soon - we do!