Am I safe in assuming that all your turned-a-nice-guy-into-a-bad-boy experiences were before you got married? If so, I'd suggest that guys in your current demographic will give you significantly different results.
Hmmm...I offer as evidence "Teddy", a 52 year old Buddhist, elementary school teacher who had felt-making as one of his hobbies. I believe that he did not appreciate the fact that monkey-girl was more turned on by the fact that he was once a member of one of the West Side story gangs then by his more gentle pursuits. He was experienced enough to throw it out there but not empathetic enough to respect me when it worked. That is why I am trying to be empathetic about the fact that men get turned on by T&A and bunny stuff, I'm not saying that any of it is a reason to choose a life partner but it is what "works" sexually and it is lame on many levels to think/act otherwise.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
