Please give some advice on sex

[Dom R]

She feels oral is harmful spiritually.

Then you need to figure out what kind of spiritual leader she respects, and then jointly talk to that person together.
Either she is "confused", or she is just using that as a mask to enable her to avoid participating in it. There's no biblical teaching against oral sex between a man and a woman, ANYwhere.
Other things, could be considered ambiguous. this, is not.

That being said.. i think you should quit obsessing over oral sex. There are way more important issues.

She also has a problem with me touching her body, unless we are actually having sex. I don't believe she has been abused in anyway in her past.

you may never know.
Interesting that you bring up abuse, though.
That sure SOUNDS like the reaction of someone who has been abused. sexually.

that's sad to think. I hope that your wife seeks help for her discomfort with human touch. That's a basic human comfort, that it is sad to be without.