Hey, all, I thought I needed to come and catch up on everyone, and have noticed several who haven't posted in a while. I hope yall are lurking, and reading and are doing really well.
As for me,my H seems to be coming around more, but still occasionally returning into the shadows of the tunnel where it is safe. But, at least as far as I can tell, the RAT (ow) isn't waiting in there for him.
The other day when he was getting ready for work, he said he had to get his stuff out of his car, and then he went to get something out of my car, which he had used the night before. I asked him what he left in my car, and he said it was his keys. I asked him why he took his car keys when he was using my car, and he said he didn't want to be violated. I said WHAT? And he said you know what I mean. I said well if you are being honest and above board, you wouldn't worry about my searching your car. He said in the past he could understand my searching his car, but now that he IS being above board, he would get angry about it, but that any time I thought I needed to search his car, to tell him and he would hand me the keys. I told him that I had not searched his car in a long time not since last year. And that I was trusting him. Of, course, I cannot trust him all the time just yet.
Our S said that he wondered about his father, but that now he thought he was sincerely going out of his way to assure me that he was doing nothing wrong. he is coming home on time from work, he is being a bit more affectionate with me, and, although he only rarely says ILY first, will respond willingly when I say it first. He hasn't been grumping at me for not working, because I think with the state of his parents health, he realizes the importance of my being available for doing things for them, which I have been doing. Occasionally he will make a comment, but it doesn't seem to be mean-spirited like before.
H's weight has gone up alot over the past six months, and even though I try to fix healthy meals, he keeps wanting to eat more, and then wants sweets, his blood sugar is borderline, his joints ache in the morning,and his blood pressure is still up, and the doc increased his medicine, so I hope that works. He doesn't want to exercise, and sometimes blames ME for that, even though I said I would love to exercise with him. He seems happier, though, so I hope eventually he will do something about getting up to exercise in the morning, or walking as a family or something at night. It seems like when we do all get involved as a family, he seems to really enjoy it.
It all seems so boring, probably, but I would rather have that than the drama of 2006 any day.
