I can tell you one thing, you are going to have to allow yourself to let go of beating yourself up over the past. I know I went through that -- I felt like I had thrown away so many years of our M and had to forgive myself for the things I had done & not done in the M to mess it all up. Otherwise, you will walk around w/ that forever.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10