You guys are right. I will get a card tomorrow. It's a tough line between being a weenie and taking the high road. I have to do it without expectations. I truly believe that the "swicth has been turedn off", never to be turned on again. As always, thanks for posting.
You guys are probably right, as usual. It's a tough line between high road and weenie. cf: I'm looking for a 10 pound l;oss by Christmas. Hill: You're probaly running in sand every day trying to keep father time away like I am. Nothing to do but run, lift and dring whey protein drinks over here in my free time. At least I'll go home looking good! Matilda: Don't know if you're an exercise fanatic! BTW Matilda; where is your thread?
Matilda: Don't know if you're an exercise fanatic!
Currently I can say I am consistently inconsistent with my exercise!
My thread is in Surviving even though I am not divorced yet. My threads all start with "waltzing" (Waltzing Matilda ). Right now it's just me grumbling about Thanksgiving and lack of effort on H's part re. D17. I'll let you know when it turns more positive!
Hey just caught up FLTC. Birthdays are tricky. I guess all communication becomes tricky so let's presuppose it seems best to be detached. So what would a detached aquantance do? probably send a benign message. If you reconcile, this is a good symbol as it is thoughtful and that is what she complained about. If you become single then acts of civility foster a smoother transition into divorce I guess.
Just don't get offended too easily by her communication about the holidays. No on can guess how hard it is for you and if you spell it out, that makes it hard also. Give her trhe benefit of the doubt that she is not trying to hurt you, she is just being ignorant or at least just tryig to remind you of better times with the kids.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
Hill: You're probaly running in sand every day trying to keep father time away like I am.
Well I walk with air bottle filled with sand 3-6 miles every other day early to avoid the questions. It's not an normal sight. Used to wear a weight vest but frankly did not care for the questions of going back and such. Nothing bad just did not feel about talking about it.
Father time took care of the knees so I do not run hills I swim them.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
Just a quick note to say hello and tell you to stay safe. Hope you make the most of your Thanksgiving. I know all the Food Service personnel there will do their best to make a special meal. I am grateful for you and everyone serving our country! (I am not sure when you'll be able to get back here so didn't want to miss saying Happy Thanksgiving).
Holidays approaching, and believe it or not, it's easier to be here in Iraq than at home. Last year was awful. My W and 2 Ds. went to her father's house and my son8 stayed with me. God bless his little heart! I love him to death.
How can this type of stuff fail to rip out our WAS's hearts? having families separated on the holidays are awful! How can any human being do this to another? There will be next year.....
How can this type of stuff fail to rip out our WAS's hearts? having families separated on the holidays are awful! How can any human being do this to another? There will be next year.....
I think these are questions you have to get out of your mind and stop worry about them. Sure we've all asked them but if we dwell on them we'll go insane.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
How can this type of stuff fail to rip out our WAS's hearts? having families separated on the holidays are awful! How can any human being do this to another? There will be next year.....
fltc, you gotta remember that you cannot apply logic to feelings and you cannot apply logic to the thinking process of WAS. It's just the way they feel right now. They will justify everything around their anger/pain/resentment. All they know is that they are escaping whatever pain they are experiencing and that's all they care about. At this stage they are very self centered. My W constantly justifies that our kids are just fine and happy and not being with me is the best for them. Obviously to me and everyone else in the world she's completely out of her mind. Just keep reminding yourself that it's the alien talking, it's not the S you know and love....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
). Right now it's just me grumbling about Thanksgiving and lack of effort on H's part re. D17. I'll let you know when it turns more positive!