You're selling the hypothetical Chrome very short.
I don't mean to pick on Chrome. I love Chrome and I like him and I should have said "Someone like Chrome but who never joined this BB and gained insight.". Let's just consider any guy who generally manifests as "nice" and doesn't have a lot of sexual experience/knowledge. I'm not really saying that "nice guy" would reject me for being a "slut" because I did "kinky" stuff or even that he would be uncomfortable with the fact that he expressed his sexuality in new ways. What I am saying is that he would perceive that I was being turned on by his expression of the dark/dominant side of his sexuality and that might disturb him because he wouldn't have the experience to know that in terms of "just sex" that is what truly turns on the vast majority of women. I understand that men find it confusing that women want men to "protect" them and "throw them down" too. Women find some male stuff confusing for the opposite/same reason. I don't know if anyone is capable of fully integrating Madonna/Whore, Bad Boy/ Nice Boy, Sexuality/Pair-Bonding but some combination of experience/knowledge/empathy is helpful. It's funny to me that Dom thinks that people who are really into BDSM (not me so much except naughty schoolgirl stuff, of course) are like that in "real life". Most that I know are gentle nerds.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
