Rob, I agree with what you are saying about being careful with the ultimatums. My H is so hard headed it would definitley backfire on me. I do think calmness and patience is the key here. Like you said you don't have to be a doormat, but also don't be Atilla the Hun.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
