Things are better with H and me. He is including me in the conversation, and that makes all the difference.

Okay, new question:

My parents are arriving for a visit today, staying through the weekend. Because until 2 years ago we lived in the same city, they've never stayed with us. I haven't spent this much time with my parents since I moved out of their house in my 20s!

Any tips for handling this? H's parents (both sets...they're divorced) have stayed with us a million times, and that's been no big deal...I guess because I'm really detached there. But...though my mom and I have built a pretty good R, our history is fairly contentious. We're just incredibly different people...and we clash a lot. Our R is better from afar.

Other than staying "tiddled" all week, any ideas?

Thanks!

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!