me: Hey, are we going to see you dad for TG? her: No, we aren't going. me: Well, I talked to SMIL, and she invited us. So I was thinking about going. her: Well, you shouldn't assume. me: Assume? I didn't assume anything. I'm going to go and take the kids with me. her: No you are not, you are not taking the kids without me to see my family. me: Why not? her: Because it's my family, and you aren't doing it. me: OK, we can talk about it later. her: Fine, take the kids. Go. Why don't you leave tomorrow? me: OK, bye. her: <obviously frustrated and agitated> Bye.
SMIL invited me to go. I am going and I am taking the kids with me The kids may want to stay at home. Whatever, I am going, whether she likes it or not. I intend to have a great time.
I know her. She is agitated. I threw her off, big time. Right now, she thinks I am bluffing. But the more she thinks about it, it will occur to her that there is no downside to me following through.
My guess is that one of two things will occur: She will either go with me, or she will exact "revenge" upon me by inviting her boyfriend to visit. I think it will be the former. The embarassment of me showing up alone... no wife, no kids...
And if she choses a visit from her boyfriend, it does not matter to me. I have freed her to her own stupidity. She is free to be an idiot, and I will not stand in her way.
But the significance of this is not lost on me. This is a shot across the bow for my freedom. She is seeing that my behaviors and my actions are no longer tied to her. I am acting in my own best interest, and the best interests of the kids. Remember, father and SMIL are very pro-family. They would oppose a divorce in the absence of a legitimate effort on her part to salvage the marriage. I think this is why she does not want to go visit. She is in an emotional turmoil right now. I need to stand clear.
