I told the C that I didn't want to meet with H and she was ok with that. I said he needed to work on R with DD and then his parents. She asked about child care issues and I said that DD can see and be with him as much or as little as they both want. What happened was...H took DD to dinner and then nothing until next C session (2 weeks because of a meeting C had). DD didn't say much but her actions were to nose dive on school work and do some risky behaviors (walking in the dark alone, not as drastic as drugs, etc). They met again last Friday and H is taking DD out again on 27th. DD and I are meeting with C to discuss her behavior on 30th. H did send a note to his dad wishing him a happy belated bday (1 month late) that said "I hope to get my act together". H did as C had asked and sent me an email saying he is taking DD out. I didn't respond but I did leave a message later on his answering machine to say he is responsible for picking up and dropping DD off during their C sessions. Which he did.
Was2sad, I don't know what I will do if he files. I don't think I am scared of his anger and will protect DD and myself. I guess I'll just wait and see what C has to say. She did tell me that she saw fear of intense emotion. Which makes sense. I think he is really fear based with everything. Fear of rejection, fear of his own emotions, etc. That is probably why he doesn't contact DD outside of C's instructions.
Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.
bomb: Jan 25, 2006 not seen since DD moved in with H - 9/1/08 H filed for divorce - 11/2008 Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010 still nothing
