Yeah, when you're breaking up with someone, you can't be indirect and subtle. For instance, you can't use analogies. You don't have to be brutal, but you have to be clear.
When he showed up at the door, if you really want to be broken up with him, you should have told him, "we're over," and closed the door. If you give him an anbiguous response, he will interpret it the way he wants to-- in this case, that you're NOT really broken up.
Your description of you and Chrome reinforced something that I've wondered about you (hard as it may be to believe, I have some of this in me, too)... what you seem to want sexually is to be whatever HE wants. To do his fantasy, blow his mind, and as I used to say (and GEL reproached me for), be the best he has ever had.
But what do YOU want for YOU sexually, besides having a partner who will label you the best he's ever had? There's a lot of performer and a lot of needing validation in what you describe (not that there's anything wrong with that...), but what if you didn't need to perform, to prove anything about your attractiveness and sexual desirability, and didn't need validation... then what would you want in bed?
