As you become more detached, and you will, it will be easier to enforce your boundries without all of the emotional drama. Your W can still push your buttons because of your attachment to her. The more you build your own life, without her as a central player, the less her little games will affect you.
BTW, the thing about wednesday was chicken sh!t. If a 3 and a 5 year old miss a day of pre-school, it's no big deal. They're still at an age when they would rather spend the day with a parent. I understand why you chose not to die on that hill, but she was jerking you around.
Spiderman 3 was the worst of the 3. Going downhill...kinda like the Batman franchise.
Yup... I've learned not to say things in front of the D's. I learned this long ago because things happen. I try not to build their hopes up. Unfortunately, I had let it slip to D5 that we would possibly take Wednesday off. She asked last night.. I told her that Mom wanted her to go to school. Probably not the best way to answer, but it is the truth. I could've been nastier about it, but I won't go to that level. D5 was very upset and threw a fit.. said some mean things about Mom which I corrected. No need to bother W with any of that.
I'm looking forward to detaching... definitely!!
On a side note... Hot Mom was dropping her D off at the same time again.. noticed she didn't have her ring on. She also mentioned something about a note she was supposed to get and made kind of a nasty comment about her husband getting it. Then she asked if we lived in her neighborhood because she thought she saw us. BTW.. that's a very awkward question. I just looked at W.. not sure what to say. Hindsight.. I should've said "No.. I live here and W lives there"
On the way out, Hot Mom and I passed each other.. big smiles from each of us.
Anyway... yeah Spidey 3 sucked... Mark.. WTH? My W's BF thinks he's a Transformer.. jackass.
Seems like they tried to fit 2 too many villains and couldn't keep the story up.
Mark -- is he for real? And your W finds this attractive?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
So... W has been conspicously chatty.. mostly about little stuff, but very clingy.
Oh the joys of being separated during the Holidays!!
We now have a date on Friday (no school.. no work) to go through Xmas decorations.
I've agreed to give her the tree (friends wife has 7 of them she displays) and we need to go through ornaments etc.
She invited me.. I was very hesitant.. originally she wanted to go see the horses together this weekend.. then she brings the Xmas stuff up. She wanted to take up 2 days doing this. I politely combined activities to one day. Again.. I love spending time with the D's, but I want to keep my availability to her limited. Besides.. I may have plans!!
Hope you all are gearing up for good Holiday celebrations!!
