I Don't Care Anymore

[Rob1231]

Hi husband,

I understood that the invitation had already been issued. My point was, do not accept on W's behalf and then spring this on her. In any R, troubled or not, I would consider this rude.

Sure, we can always rub our WAS's nose in what they are doing. There's a lot of potential short-term gratification to be had there.

However, I encourage taking the long view - in my case, I never did this, because I hoped for the day (which is now here) that W and I would be back together. If I had exposed her failings to her family and my family "back in the day", then W and I would both be struggling with a lot more issues and drama today (I can just imagine the fun during the holidays!) Doing so would not have been conducive to my long-term goal of restoring and improving my marriage. Hope you see where I'm coming from.

Rob