My W has been away for 4 days with her girl friends. I thought I would miss her and be all emotional but I have actually been very much ok. Been busy with curling and my fishing lures so that helps and went over for dinner with some friends.
I ofcourse think or hope that she has been thinking and maybe cleared up some things in her head and heart. It will be hard not to say or ask too much, but I have a new found calm and focus so I believe I can do it.
I am an emotional man so I have had my fair share of breakdowns and freak shows so I now understand how they can set you back a fair bit. Hopefully I can take my new calm state and general well being and avoid the breakdowns.
Just before she left we were intimate and in the morning she acted as if nothing had happened, and I took that as a good sign.
I have seen the OM a fair bit and he is withdrawing and avoiding me more and more. I focus on it, but I think it is obvious. He is also afraid of me doing something physical, which I will not but since I have served time in the military he knows that I can deal with people in a physical way.
Just want to say that if you can get it through your head that being emotional and talking about the R is not the best thing when trying to re build I think you will be much better off. It took me 3 months at least to kind of get there, and even got a few I think we have some nice days lately comments.
What in my situation seems to be the nicest thing is that the OM is fading away, both literally and figuratively. I can only hope that my W's feelings towards him are doing the same.
She is back tonight so more tomorrow,
I do find it so strange sometimes to even be in this situation, and since no one around us knows, it is truly like living in a different world in so many ways.
I hope you all have a great day, and if you are of the American kind that your Thanksgiving will have lots of good Thanking in it.
