W8ting, I struggled with exactly the same thing - 'how will he know what he actually broke, if we all pretend that everything is fine !??' Well to be honest I don't know the answer...
I told him once that I wanted to work on our marriage, but said it was too late, that he was now in a R with ow ! (As if he would have even considered it otherwise !) Anyway, it did ME good to tell him, although if you do, expect NOTHING, as that is most likely what will happen - NOTHING.
I'm sorry that you've had to bottle it all up, it's not healthy, find someone to be your friend and confidant through this, that like Angelica says, can give you a hug once in a while !
Also know that everyone here is wonderful and understanding !!! Take care ((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
