Cemar, I got so ticked off at my W after our first C session back in July, that I couldnt see straight. My W told so many lies, and the C believed everything she said. I looked straight at the C and asked her how long has she known my W? I told the C that I have known her for 22+ years and you have known her for less than a hour, and already she has you hoodwinked. We each drove seperately, and when my W left, she got on her cell and I am sure called the OM and filled him in. I told her when we got home to pack up her things and leave, since that is what she wanted. She said in C that she wanted out, that she wanted to be alone, and that she didnt want any relationship with anyone! Wow, I then came back to her about her relationship with the OM, and she told me he was just a friend and that he had been through a D before and he was just helping her. A friend doesnt help another friend get a divorce. They are supposed to be there to listen and support. When I told her to get out, she stared at me and said she had no place to go. I told her to call the OM, and then have him drive 100 miles to pick her up. And then I told her to call his W and tell her to make room for her in the house b/c it wont be long before its over. This is all classic MLC, as I found a website where my W found the OM, who by the way was her old high school bf from 1975! She dated this guy while she was a senior in HS. She put her HS pix on this site, and posts of all the things she and her friends did while in school. This is all a fantasy, and she is getting her jollies from it. Am still trying to DB, and I am going to have to make a decision soon as to what I am going to do, as I cant take living in the same house with her. My S18 has been home for the holiday since friday nite, and has only slept here one night. He doesnt want to be home knowing his mom is causing big problems. My D20 is coming and going, and she knows her mom is behaving strangely. Dont know what is going to happen when they find out about her A, and it may happen sooner than later. I am going to give her an ultimatum later this week when everyone is home to go to retrouvaille in January, and if she doesnt, I am going to call a family meeting and spill the beans. Dont want to hurt the kids with this, but they are already hurting b/c of the W. Thanks for your response Cemar. Take care.
