I think a letter is a good way to do it for a couple of reasons.
Most communication (60-90% depending on what you read,) is non-verbal. This means that whatever your words are, they are "interpreted" by the other person. Your H doesn't sound like he's going to focus on the semantic meaning of your words. A letter leaves a lot less room for interpretation of your meaning.
Additionally, there is no room for the revisionist history that the MLCer likes to throw back at us later. It's in writing so to speak.
It's also non-confrontational, which in this case sounds like a good idea.
I'm stuck there with you on this point. I've been ultra accomodating, except for the bomb discussion, and the time I went off on her. The only thing I said then was that I thought she was being selfish by putting herself before the boys.
I suppose that counts, but I really didn't say "I disagree with this and don't want this. I am dying to say that, but I'm worried that it is pushing.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
