The not being attractive is just so devastating, and some MLCers clearly don't share this, and continue to want intmacy with their partners.
Oddly enough I think that guilt also plays apart in this. In a warped way, believing I am not attractive makes it 'OK' for him to have an affair . . .
I do find things easier to cope with if I understand what may be going on . . . . So thanks to everyone, for reassuring me it happens to others, and isn't necessarily irreversable.
