This afternoon I totally just started laughing at my H's texts, and didn't let it stress me at all. Yay!
I have another appointment with my L on Wednesday morning. He's thinking I might want to file for legal separation rather than D, simply because it provides a more immediate financial protection for me. I can roll with that, as I certainly want to be protected. He said it's a good idea for people in my situation, because filing for D wouldn't provide that protection for me here until it was final and H is too unpredictable. There's a 90-day minimum waiting period here for D. But the legal separation is 6 months, and you cannot file for D in that time.
Over the weekend when I started feeling less anxious and I was able to respond to H, I did. I needed to make sure I was trying everything I could to make something work out (with this quit claim he's wanting signed), if possible. I definitely took the high road with the email I wrote him in response to all of his attempted intimidation. He came back with more of the same, so I had my answer. He didn't really want to make this good for both of us like he says, he just wants that signed.
It's not surprising, but tonight he is hitting it pretty hard with still trying to beg me to sign that for him. I've told him I'd need to be legally protected, have agreements in place. It doesn't look like he really wants to do that. It's pretty darn funny... I mean, it's making me cry I laugh so hard.... how he is begging for me to do this for him, but only promising that later we will address everything else. So.... I'd need to "trust" him. He says "God, I would so not screw you".
It's just great to feel good about the actions I'm taking.
I went to church yesterday for the first time in, well, a long time. On my own, anyway. I did go with family at Easter (I think it was) and when my grandpa died. I had to walk about half an hour to get there, and it was raining some on my way home, but it was good for me.
My doggies are good. Life is good. I have hope for the future. Things are gonna be good.
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
He says "God, I would so not screw you".