Maybe you should send RCR an email and ask her for suggestions. She may have some thoughts on the approach you should take...especially when there is an OW involved.
I know it is tough to put yourself out there. Something that I think really clicked with my H was after he told me he filed the D, I told him that I didn't want the D but if it was going to make him happy then I thought we should do it. It has been 3 months and he hasn't had me served...whatever that means!
