Are you sure you're not my wife in disguise? If your husband is like me, he may not have realized that he wasn't showing interest in you or that he was failing to provide emotional support when you most needed it. Although his lack of interest and support may have seemed obvious to you, we men are often pretty dense concerning a woman's emotional needs and I think that we learn a lot as we get older. He probably believed that you were happy with the state of your relationship and didn't realize that you didn't feel close to him until your sex life started declining. At that point, he also began feeling that the two of you were growing apart and he tried to correct the problem as he perceived it by trying to re-establish intimacy - not necessarily because he wanted sex but because he wanted to be close to you. This just caused more problems because he never addressed the problems that caused you to stop wanting sex with him, nor did he know that those problems even existed. If this has gone on for quite a while, as it has in my relationship, he's probably done a lot of thinking and has a much better grasp on your needs than he did before. If he sees that you're willing to try to overcome the problems in your relationship, I'll bet he'll shower you with emotional support because he doesn't want to make the same mistake again. When you're getting along well with each other, I'd suggest surprising your husband by initiating sex when he couldn't possibly expect it. Then try to do so again a few times soon after. I think that if my wife would do this it would have a snowball effect on our whole relationship. And if he doesn't start doing those things that will allow you to feel close to him emotionally, you can always stop. By the way, if you do this and it works, call my wife and tell her - kidding of course.
