I struggled too with deciding if my W was in MLC. I have even counseled with Jim Conway.
They don't all exhibit all the signs; it's not exactly a 'curriculum.'
The thing my W DID do that was textbook was race like h*ll for the divorce court, file, then sit on her hands except for sending me stupid 'settlement' offers. (See my thread 'Come ON Friday.) I've had two, a year apart. No other 'legal' stuff has been done. You haven't been here long, although it seems like an eternity. Give yourself some time. Read all the resources. There IS hope, and lots of it.
Take care,
David
The fires of true love can never be quenched, because the source of its flame is God Himself! - Shulamith
