I've Been Served :(

[theforlornhope]

She said that she would still pay her share, she just wants it off her credit report......

Riiiiiight. And I should trust you because...........

And I should want to do you a favor because...........

I fell off a truck once, but it weren't last night.

I got served last month on the day before our anniversary. I keep thinking of the south park episode where the kids keep telling each other "you just got served!" which is apparently street slang for getting your nose rubbed in it.

How fitting.

If you need a roady for the tour, pick me up in Iowa, mine is final in January. I can't cook cajun, but I'm a jack of all trades, master of none. Or not many anyway.

[mcojh]

After 3 calls, I finally called CW back.

Me:Hello
CW:I wanted to finish talking about today and tomorrow.
Me:S16 and I are going to work together tomorrow and S6 is going to my moms for the day.
CW: I can watch S6
Me:No, my mom wants to watch him. She volunteered.
CW:What about church tomorrow? Should I pick them up at 9?
Me:No we are going tonight.
CW:I thought that they were going with me.
Me:Not this week.
CW:I like to see the boys on Sunday.
Me:After we get home they can call you and set something up.

That was bad enough, then we had to go to soccer together. She thinks we should have rules as to who watches the kids. She thinks I should offer her first crack at watching S6. Evidently ffom is busy tomorrow. I said no, my mom wants to do it. She agreed that it was okay for my mom. I see her plotting revenge because S16 and I are supposed to go hunting next weekend.
I predict that she will kabosh this.

On an unrelated note, there is a wall in the house that had about 15 family wedding photos. They came down today and I am going to replace them with two larger pictures.

Smiling and waving......

[LL44]

Smiling and waving......

Man, you are the solid rock in this awful storm. You are doing so well. She is trying to rile you up, for sure. You are being calm and fair, that's all we can do with aliens.....

I hope she doesn't mess with your hunting weekend.

[mcojh]

Thanks LWB-

Company just left. I had my mom, 2 sisters, BIL and niece over for dinner. I made a nice dinner of italian sausage, meatballs etc. Very casual and relaxing. I did find myself wondering what CW was doing. Not that I was worrying about specifics, just that this was the first family event without her here.

Side note I learned from S16 (he offered, I didn't pry) that CW is moving to another unit in her complex. It will have 3 bedrooms, which is good for him. It is hard for a 16yo to room with a 6yo.....

Smiling, burping and waving................

[Heartbroken]

MC,

You sound like you are doing awesome and CW sounds as crazy as ever! I have a feeling she has not faced reality in what D will mean in terms of your friendship. She seems to think you will remain as tight as you have become over these last few months. I know my H would be the same way. It's like they want it all...

Keep up the smiling, burping and waving - YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION!

HB

[mcojh]

Well, laying pretty low lately. Basking in my own oneness (translated, I have been lazy).

Anyway, I had S16 call CW on Sunday night as she had asked. They talked a bit and then put me on the line. She wanted to meet at DQ for dinner. I said I didn't want to go because I was in uniform and wasn't in the mood to be nice when people talked to me. She actually begged me to go. It was weird. I went, kept it short and was the one to leave first.

Today, she called S16 when I wasn't home. He told her he was on standby to pick S6 up from school if I got hung up at work. I had him call her back and tell her I was home.

A few minutes later, she called to talk to me. She told me that she wasn't going to schedule another appointment with the C we saw. I never asked why. I just listened. She told me that after the last session, when he asked if we talked about session one and hadn't, she was embarrassed. I told her I was willing to talk, she just had to ask. I went on to give her my available times.

WTH.

Well off to soccer and then to press my dress uniform to attend a Police Officer's funeral tomorrow......

[theoden]

MC,

I read Olive's and HB's comments.

It's OK if they cry for you and with you. Compassion is a gift.

I've cried when I've read these boards.

You are a decent man, MC.

You've done what you could.

--Theoden

[mcojh]

Well I go see my attorney this afternoon. But it is something I need to do, another hurdle to jump.

Anyway, Saturday, before soccer, S16 called to ask if I would like some soup. They had made some soup and had extra. I said sure.

After the game, CW made a point to ask me twice if I wanted to go to a movie on Sunday with the kids. I told her to call me because I was working. S6 called at 3 and asked me to go with them. It may or may not have been a bad decision, but I went. It was ok. We saw Fred Claus. There was some teasing and joking around. No expectations. No contacting.

On a positive note, I had a wise Prophet ask me Sunday what I was doing that was exciting. I thought about it for a while and here is what I came up with:

1-I am finally becoming able to enjoy my life and my kids. I am able t oput myself into my work, I am able to laugh.

2-Next week I start as a volunteer tutor at a local in patient treatmeant facility for teens and young adults.

3-I am redecorating parts of my house, cleansing it of CW.

[mcojh]

Little update:

Saw the attorney. I had two options: 1-Hire him to do it all. 2-do the leg work myself and negotiate directly with CW and have the lawyer review it. I chose #1. I don't want to negotiate directly with her. It will cost more but I would rather do it this way. After I made my decision, he told me that I was making the right decision. He will deal directly with her attorney.

I liked this attorney. He is a Christian and doesn't necessarily like to do divorces, but he does a lot of them for the LBS spouses.

I am glad I got over another hurdle. This is still hard though. I still find myself thinking about what she is doing and if she is with the FFJAOM. It is getting to be less and less, but it still bothers me periodically. Then the fact that it bothers me bothers me.

I believe I have lost my mind......so let me know if you find it......

[Yoyowife]

I believe option 1 is the best also. It keeps you from getting dragged under by all of the unpleasant things. That's what lawyers are paid for, let them do the dirty work.

Take care.