Dropping the line vs. differentiation

[Dom R]

So, which is it now?
Are you fully, legally divorced now?
or still "separated"?

I don't give a flying fig about the legal stuff and I was never religiously married. I should be divorced by now but I'm not due to financial entanglements my 2bx abandoned. I considered myself morally divorced the day my 2bx informed me that he was not willing to meet any reasonable marital commitments and I asked him to leave.

so in other words, you are actually still married.

I haven't had sex with him since then (although he tried several times) and I have zero intention to have sex with him in the future.

You seem to be of the opinion, that a long term relationship, is solely defined in terms of "are the two people having sex".

I would suggest that isnt a very meaningful way to frame a long term relationshiop. Whether it be reguarding your current husband, or any future mate.

'cause the minute your mate is no longer attracted to you... then by your own terms, there is no longer any commitment to you.