Does your W have a twin? I think I married her. You are like me. WE try to make them "feel" wanted but....... We can only do so much. My W is also depressed. But they need to be the ones to make themselves "happy" I really liked your talk with her until the "she does try to do something for herself to help feel like a woman she gets crap from me for spending too much money." there she goes projecting her unhappiness on you. NOBODY can make anybody do anything. Not even if they had a gun to your head. It is still your choice. Stay strong buddy we are going to get through this one way or another. I think the important thing right now for both of us is WE need to get to a place that we can truly say “I AM OK, I AM GOOD. IN FACT I AM PERFECT. Funny thing happened to me today at work. I was working with this Female engineer on this new project and Started day dreaming. I looked at her finger and noticed she had no wedding ring. Thoughts started running through my head and then the good little guy in my head jumped and said "WHOOOOOW buddy. Look at her she is just like your W. She was a "fixit" person. The kind of people we seem to be attracted to. Why? Because we always feel obligated to fix other peoples problems. We put ourselves second. Not to bring you down but look at both of our situations. If we were truly equal to our wives then both of our wives would be trying to meet us half way. They would be saying and doing things like us to save our R. but what is happening is WE are trying to fix these things on our own. Yes we can change which in turn can make our W change but..... They are changing because WE are doing things. They unlike us are not making a concuss effort to change. Hey but if the end result is that you and I save our families so be it. We will know we have arrived when we start wondering 'Is my W really good enough for me? Today I spent over $1000.00 on ME It was from a bonus I got. Now the old Manuel would have given it to the W to pay bills because Manuel was not a good boy and did not deserve it. But the new Manuel is a bad boy and is going to get what he wants. MCC you and are not dogs waiting for scraps …Dude we are pure breads...... Smile guy the sun will rise in the morning
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
