Okay, 2x4 time. No, don't bother, I've got my own to whack myself with. But feel free to join in.
After another response from W via email, I began to retrace the thread of our conversation over the last week. And then it struck me -- no wonder W is being so friendly and conversational, not only does she never acknowledge that her A is a serious breach both in her character and our M, at no time in this dialog has she fully accepted her part in the failure of our marriage. She's letting me take all the blame again. When she says she's "sorry", it's in the context of being sorry that I screwed up, not her.
She's eating this up -- she's getting to scapegoat me (again) for all that is wrong.
Man, I can be such a patsy! I know I now need to re-read DR, since this is going way beyond "as-if" into foolishness.
The latest "spin" that W is trying to pass off is that, in response to my statement (of fact) that she never gave me an ultimatum (which I have repeated to her several times over the last four months), she now claims she did mention to me about divorce prior to the bomb. WTF?!!! Cuckoo! Insane!
There's an old saying - don't argue with a crazy person lest you go crazy as well.
So I am going dark, folks. Pitch black. I'll be friendly, cordial even (only for our children's sake), but I'm not going to play these games anymore. No, not when she's still looking for ammo. Whether it's by being friendly or nasty, building her case against me is all she's interested in.
