(((w8ing)))- I don't know what to say other than your H is proving himself a bigger jerk than previously thought. He really seems to like twisting the knife around special occasions and holidays. I am so sorry...this is all so unfair but I hope you know that no matter what happens you will be okay.
I have to run but I will check in on you later. If you ever feel like talking, you can email at UpsideDownNoMore@aol.com and I can send you my #'s.