Dropping the line vs. differentiation

[MJontheMend]

The other problem is that being a Type 7 part of my identity is liking to "explore" new identities. Like last week I was having fun being a "gambler's moll" (IMPORTANT NOTE: GP and I shall soon no longer be an item I believe because although I was tolerating the fact that he is "old school" I am unable to tolerate the fact that he does not fully uphold those values. It's like I might date John McCain and I might date Bill Clinton but John McCain getting a blow-job on the side would be more likely to cause me to dump him.) and a few months ago I was having fun being "paramour to semi-famous artist". My sister was warning me that she has the same problem because she has an active imagination and likes too many different kinds of men. However, she now believes she may have found the love of her life (the leader of her new band) although she is still living and cuddling but not having sex (mutual decision)with her last boyfriend. I do not approve of this entirely so I told her I was going to write a book for our young niece/nephews entitled "Aunt M. Has Two Boyfriends". Of course, this was partly in retaliation for the fact that when we went to Chicago for our 3rd sister's bday party last week they all decided that my new nickname is "Rainbow Brite" so that's how those who know me best are viewing my post-separation identity - lol. Obviously, I'm just rambling here but anyway my sister and I were starting to move into our new office yesterday and we were chatting about BF problems and she was wearing cute little overalls and barrettes and I was wearing a cute little hoodie and pony tail on top of my head and we couldn't decide if it was cool or pathetic that we were just the same at 41 and 42 as we were when we were teenagers. Anyways, in spite of her own stuff she did give me some good advice which was "A guy wanting to have sex with you and trying to be nice to you are just sort of the minimum requirements for a relationship. You need to make some higher level decisions. Forget about your f8cked up marriage."


Further notes: I am proud of myself because the man with whom I might have been likely to have an affair if I did that sort of thing when I was married ( we read/loved all the same books) recently got published and I went to his book signing and he made a point of telling me that he was now divorced too but I did not flirt with him because I know he is a Type 4 and an alcoholic and therefore any relationship would be doomed plus I was still dating GP at the time and I am strictly monogamous.