You mentioned you just thought you'd be controlling if you are bothered by some of his behavior. Do you feel like you just don't want to rock the boat? As in you don't want to drive him away in the beginning so you convinced yourself that it's acceptable behavior? I think most women would've wacked him with a frying pan if he was hanging all over his FFs.

M: 31
W: 31
M: 7 T: 8
S:4 D:2
Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one
S on 9/2/07
W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.

My sitch:
http://tinyurl.com/3dqw93