In an effort to avoid the multiple topics I have started, I will try to post all of my sitch in this topic unless I have a good "New Topic" question.
So, as a short update, she is a WAW, separated roughly 8 weeks, 5D, and she has papers in a lawyers office as of 2.5 weeks ago. She cannot file no fault/irreconcilable differences in our state and has no grounds for fault. So, she is in limbo unless she changes terms and agrees to my requests. Ironic I have 2 grounds for fault. Anyhow...
Today, she comes to get 5D today at my place. We were playing in backyard. Found a ribbon for 5D for kittens to play with and I said she can put it on the outside table if she wants. 5D is about 6-8 feet in front of me. 5D said no I want to give it to the kitties. She goes inside and closes the door. I then turn to my wife with all the confidence and strength, etc and say hey how are you, I got some videos 5D wants you to see. And she bitterly says, "You can't let her do that to me." I responded with, "What did I do?" Nothing else was said. Apparently my 5D ignoring her is my fault. My wife says she misses 5D and this must crush her. My 5D misses my wife but wants to be with me and has said it to both of us when she is at our respective places. I tell 5D that her mommy and daddy love her very much and then drop it. But I apparently am getting this blame also. I also drew a big circle around her not calling Saturday as she said she would pointing out the new church shoes and clothes I got because she did not call while I was gathering 5D things. I was nice about it but I didn't go crazy showing her either. I did show her videos as she was about to leave and she laughed and smiled at the fun 5D was having in them. So, a speck of a positive. She saw her 5D having a good time with her great Dad.
I also wonder if this is some guilt in her decision coming out. Perhaps, her new life is not the bed of roses she thought. Perhaps, she sees the man she always wanted. Regardless, my only option is to continue LRT because she certainly doesn't want to hear, see, or be with me at this moment.
