Still trying to win WAW back (#2)

[DaveJ]

Hey thanks houndfan! Retro is really worth it! I really hope you and your W will be able to attend! No matter how done your W thinks she is, I really believe she'll think differently once she experiences the weekend. There was a couple there that are divorced and they are coming back together. There was also a couple that was fighting until Saturday, the W looks like she's gonna strangle the H and was snapping at him on everything, and from a casual observer you definitely think they have no chance, but on Sunday at the end her attitude completely changed. There was also a couple where the H declared to the world that he has made the choice to love his W again. It was just absolutely amazing. Just seeing these couples coming together is awe inspiring and has an effect on the WAS. Definitely God's hand at work.

Going in I didn't have much expectations. I just hoped that the W would be able to let go some of her anger... And true, the W didn't come out wanting to start rebuilding the marriage. But She isn't saying we are done, over, move on etc anymore. I feel she has taken the attitude that we'll start working on the communication part and see how that goes. She still needs a lot of work on letting go of her anger and forgive me, but she's at least trying now and understands why she's holding onto that anger and refusing to forgive. I also feel that she's going to take the wait and see approach and I don't believe she is so eager to go out and find someone else any longer. It may be a long process for her to slowly come around and it will be a lot of hard work and patience, but I really feel we are going in a positive direction.

W also knows that we both have a lot of work we need to do individually before we can come together and truly make this M work. W's brother is also having M problems. He practically moved out and was ready for a D. They have 3 boys. Now all of sudden I guess they decided to get back together. His W has some major issues that makes her very erratic. MIL describes BIL's W as loony. :P Well, things was good for them for a week or two and things start to get bad again. Neither of them addressed the issues in the M.... Both the W and I know that we need to fix ourselves, and then fix what went wrong for our M to work. We both need A LOT of patience and take things slowly. Personally I do not want to rush anything and I want to do it right. We both will need and are trying to have a lot of patience and see how things proceed.

On a side note, W is very happy and impressed that I've been working on myself and trying to improve me. I told her I'm reading a book on communication and relationship with people in general and trying to improve how I interact with just anyone I come into contact with. I've always been kind of an introvert... Just trying to open myself up a bit. Hopefully she'll continue to see the good changes I'm making. But I'm doing all of this for me as I want to grow as a person.