Maybe the bigger question here isn't so much what xh's behavior is...but why don't these things bother me??
I would think it was denial...except that I have always been this way with him. Never cared when he went to strip clubs. Don't care about porn. I remember when we were engaged...I knew he had a crush on this girl at the mall. Didn't bother me. When we used to hang out with people, he would hang on our FF's or things like that. Didn't care.
And I mean honestly, I just wasn't bothered.
Actually, I used to think jealous women were crazy. Either trust your guy, or end the R. A lot of stuff that I see now as healthy boundaries, a few years back, I just thought was controlling. And no, it didn't really come from anything xh said or did...I recall thinking that loooong before we ever dated.
I've gotten more jealous and such the last few years. (Obvious reasons.) But, clearly, there is some stuff that, I would think, should bother me more. So, why doesn't it?
