Hey, SB...You busy woman - summer classes are torture for everyone, huh? SOunds like you and CJ are perhaps falling into old routines that need some shaking up? HOPe you have some time & energy to work on this during the break between classes. TAKE IT!
Snooping not good. Been having that conversation with Jethro - I suggested he talk with his W about the things that were making him WANT to snoop (in your case, "Hey, CJ - you took your coat even though it was hot, and it makes me wonder what you're up to"). I told Jethro, he'd probably get to the same info, without having to break anyone's confidence...And look what probably would have happened, CJ confesses to smoking, you show your extreme relieve that he isn't having another A, he sees he can really trust you. Right now, all you know is CJ is smoking and he's too afraid to tell you. No one is learning anything of value here...
Just so you know the fear works in both directions - SBH & I have twin palm pilots. We beam our schedules & date books back and forth. The other morning I was looking at my schedule and saw the name of a lawyer in the top of the page, every day, as a reminder. I instantly thought SBH had mistakenly beamed that to me, that perhaps he was still looking into divorcing me, etc. etc. The FIRST CHANCE I GOT I asked him about it - it was to remind me to call a bankruptcy lawyer he had talked to awhile ago, to look into the burden of my student loans! He had just forgotten to tell me he'd put it in there for me...I cried (a little) when I realized my misunderstanding and how bad/scared I had really felt.
