Back to work tomorrow. Nice quiet weekend, worked in the yard trimming bushes, planting our herbs and veggies and such.
CJ's working on a presentation for an upcoming e-conference so I'm stealing a little late night computer time. (Truth be told, I slept in till 2 p.m. today...does that beat your 4-hour nap, Sam? )
Can't believe I forgot to mention our walk last night...(was just posting to you LL, here's something else that discourages early dozing).
Had a late dinner and CJ suggested we take a walk before it got too dark. It's light out here until about 10 or 10:15 right now (June 21 it's light till nearly 11).
He suggested we drive to a park near our first apartment. It's a collaboration monument/flower garden built by the various ethnic groups in our city. So we did.
We visited all of the monuments, talked, laughed, reminisced about taking our cats for walks there when they were babies on leashes. Said we should gather our pals D and H and take photos of each other next to the monuments that represent our ancestry. It would make a lovely picnic spot.
It was just a nice moment. Didn't even hit me till now that that's the park where CJ talked to OW#2, sat, deliberated and decided to tell me it was over last August.
Hi, Shiny...thanks for the post...I've been away for a few days...
Yes, I DID feel a sense of "rightness" after I sent the email to the former client. I also saw him last night at a school event, introduced him to SBH, and chatted with him a bit. He definitely was OK with the boundary I set. And SBH said my interactions with him were fine. Whew.
Thanks for sharing about your boundary lessions...it's not easy, for sure...
Just stopping by and catching up on your sitch. You and CJ seem to be making the right moves and pushing each other's positive buttons. That sounds like heaven to me right now.
Just returned from another MC session. Don't want to hog up your thread with my rants, so take a look see.
I see you and CJ as having overcome the gridlocking issues that you face. A positive dialogue is established. Mutual respect is alive and well!
Been too damned busy to post lately. I really hate when my job sucks this much of my energy, but there's only one week left. Unfortunately that means burning the midnight oil to prep their final exam, but then I have a bit of a breather before the next class starts. (July 2)
Things are okay here on the homefront. Okay, not really great. Hard to tell. I have noticed that CJ is not saying ILY much if at all these days. Did he read my posts about that? Did he sense my own hesitation at times or concern that it was "lip service"? Why do I miss it now??? No signs of a sex life either. ...It's been months. (And contrary to popular opinion, I don't pressure CJ about the sex issue, nor do I "come on" to him...maybe I should???)
I'm just so busy, I haven't really been able to process it all, let alone try to do something about it. Just seems like old times, and we all know where that led!
On the up side, CJ's been doing A LOT around the house and yard, applied for a part time job today and was accepted into that on-line Masters program.
I saw my new kidney guy again today and was advised to "sit on my hands" and basically pray the stones stay put. I go back in september...but they are really barking today .
Well perhaps a bottle of wine with dinner tonight will help loosen our tongues, I feel like a "status report" is in order for both of us.
Sorry for my absence folks, hope to catch up tonight. I was planning to work on my final exam, but I'm just too burned out from the week to do that.
Oh yeah, this is kind of weird and, I know, bad DBing on my part. CJ, if you're reading this, please understand that my radar is still sometimes "up" about oddities I observe.
Yesterday CJ made a couple of trips to various stores...all broken up though, some right on the same route, but he came home in between.
On his last run, I saw him grab his coat and without thinking said "Oh, you don't need that, it's hot out!" (which it was).
He shrugged and took the coat. Okay, I admit, I was suspicious. I later "frisked" his coat and felt a pack of cigarettes in there. (Much, Much better than my worst imaginings...another cell phone!).
Thing is, he's hiding this from me. That is NOT a good thing. It suggests to me that he is STILL afraid to be honest with me. What does he think I would do??? He's a grown man, if he wants to start a smoking habit at 41, that's his (lousy) choice.
What do you all make of this? I haven't said anything to him as I'm not proud of having snooped.
Have you tried a tickle fight theory yet??? And wearing a low cut blouse with a short skirt... around the house of course... You know, play dress up kind of thing...
JMHO... I know a pair of thigh highs drive me up a wall...
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...It's been months. (And contrary to popular opinion, I don't pressure CJ about the sex issue, nor do I "come on" to him...maybe I should???)