BlueJay:

You have already PROVEN to yourself that you have an incredible amount of power over your own life... and you have the determination and ability to sustain it over the long haul to meet a goal you have set for yourself. K?

So let me ask you two questions:

1) What are you getting out of mentally abusing yourself, ie., putting yourself down? What does that do for you?

2) What are you getting out of being so angry and bitter?

Seriously consider both questions, please, and answer honestly. Do you WANT to be an angry, bitter man? Do you like how that makes you feel?

What kind of person do you WANT to be? How do you WANT to feel about yourself?